Friday, 31 May 2013

No, Mrs Tait. No, That's Not The Problem..

The problem is that staff are not trained to look after pupils like Charlotte and so, by trying to diffuse the situation, they actually just escalate it,’ Mrs Tait said.
The problem is that you've raised an obese monster that you've pandered to and cosseted, to the point of insanity, and now she's simply uncontrollable thanks to her enormous and totally unearned sense of entitlement.
‘We feel completely let down by the system. The help Charlotte needs is not available and we’re having to go through hell to try and get it.’
Cut out the sugar and instil some proper discipline, and you won't NEED state intervention...

15 comments:

Bucko The Moose said...

Fat ginner looks like a child bully out of any eighties kids TV series.

She obviously needs a few slaps followed by a strict diet

ageing man said...

very simple...take off one of her shoes and socks...point to a toe...and tell her if she don't buck her ideas up...one day... just maybe she might be losing one of the those suckers..... it will work trust me...

Macheath said...

I spotted this one a while back - what's interesting is that the Mail seems to have removed a section describing how her younger siblings cannot have friends to play at home because of her behaviour (though it's still referred to in the comments) and replaced it with the clearly inaccurate (see article) headline phrase 'is perfectly well-behaved at home'.

Meanwhile, I can understand why one parent might be needed at home to supervise an excluded child, but this?

Charlotte’s troubles at school started taking up so much time, her parents said they had to give up their business to care for her.

Anonymous said...

Clever or not nobody likes an ugly, fat, pain in the arse ginger kid. Best the parents get a grip of her behaviour and her eating.

James Higham said...

The problem is that you've raised an obese monster that you've pandered to and cosseted, to the point of insanity

Love it.

DavefromTacoma said...

In the article there's these two paragraphs:

"Her parents, Arthur and Maxine, are convinced their daughter has Asperger’s syndrome but she is not entitled to the special teaching she needs until she is diagnosed by a doctor.

"The couple, who run a soft play centre and have two younger children, have been waiting almost a year to get a medical assessment."

Went on the interwebs and it says that visits (in the U.S.) for a diagnosis run around $80 per visit, and that a couple of visits may be required. Let's say four visits, that's a total of $320. (Or around 200 pounds.)

If these parents believe it is so important to get this officially certified as Aspergers, why don't they stop waiting and just pay the damn money?

This kind of also goes into the subject about how, increasingly, what may be human failings are being codified as a medical condition. For years in the U.S. parents have gone out of their way to have their difficult children diagnosed as having ADHD. Now it seems as though Aspergers is the new diagnoses of choice. Kind of like fat people are no longer fat people but people suffering from the disease of obesity.

John Pickworth said...

I'm sure both the IQ and parent's diagnosis are invented or imagined. The parents seem to be hoping for a State windfall of assistance upon confirmation that their daughter has Asperger’s syndrome. What if she doesn't? How will they manage then?

Ooooh, hold the front page. I have more ;-)

Twenty_Rothmans said...

I don't blame Charlotte Tait for being belligerent. If I looked like her mother, which she does, I'd be off my nut.

There are families who boast of the first member to graduate from university. Getting excited about the first to get into triple digits in an IQ test is so twee.

John Pickworth said...

Charlotte’s troubles at school started taking up so much time, her parents said they had to give up their business to care for her.

Results of sleuthing...

Their business was apparently called Cheeky Monkeez based in Pickering (not to be confused with businesses of a similar name etc). They appear to have been trying to sell their business since at least December 2011 before finally shutting up shop on 6th August 2012.

There is a website which is still live (not hard to find) but more interesting are the comments on a Facebook page...

As an ex member of staff from cheeky monkeez i am sadened to see this place has not changed, i worked there for over a year and loved it and on loads of occasions other customers where attacked, not only by the child but by her father, i agree its a lovley place to go and one of the cleanest places for children to play, but children should feel happy to be there and parents should feel relaxed that there children can play without being bullied......instead of the owners giving away free lollies (as if that will make it better) they should address the problem......

And

On several occasion on visiting Cheeky Monkeez i have found my children (and friends children) been bullied in this establishment, by the owners daughter! The owners do not seem the least concerned and make no effort to correct or discipline this appaling behaviour from their daughter. I would like to hear other peoples opinions on their experiences here!

I'll leave others to infer what they wish from those comments.

Woman on a Raft said...

The parents seem to be hoping for a State windfall of assistance

And they have had one. A place has been found for her at a special school which is probably this one:

http://www.witherslackgroup.co.uk/witherslack-hall-school/news

The story implies they are keeping the price down by doing weekly boarding. As the parents seem to be coping poorly it may be in everyone's long-term interest if she is put in a controlled and positive atmosphere which she lacks at home.

The referral comes from the local authority and the school will assess the child to see if it can help her.

JuliaM said...

it will work trust me..."

Well, it'll slow her down. Not that she probably moves too fast anyway..

"...what's interesting is that the Mail seems to have removed a section describing how her younger siblings cannot have friends to play at home because of her behaviour (though it's still referred to in the comments)... "

Yes, the 'Mail' did quite a bit of stealth editing on that story...

"For years in the U.S. parents have gone out of their way to have their difficult children diagnosed as having ADHD. Now it seems as though Aspergers is the new diagnoses of choice."

Welcome to the medicalisation of all normal range of human conditions... :(

JuliaM said...

"The parents seem to be hoping for a State windfall of assistance.."

Having given up their business, as MacHeath points out, they must be living on something .

I hope it's not me.

"There are families who boast of the first member to graduate from university. Getting excited about the first to get into triple digits in an IQ test is so twee."

LOL

"As the parents seem to be coping poorly it may be in everyone's long-term interest if she is put in a controlled and positive atmosphere which she lacks at home. "

One comment at the 'Mail' - "School is probably the only place she ever hears the word 'No'.." - hit the nail on the head. :/

Lynne at Counting Cats said...

1. My son has Asperger's. It took years to diagnose.

2. He recorded an IQ of 149 when he was nine years old, assessed by an educational psychologist at my insistence when his teachers decided he couldn't cope with mainstream school because he was never on the same page as everyone else. This was due to the fact he had a reading age of an adult and had graduated well beyond Janet and John level. What the teachers took for stupidity was actually extreme boredom.

3. He has never punched or assaulted anyone, not even in a temper. Not even out of extreme frustration with being labelled and treated as exceptionally dim by his teachers.

Time the Tait's stopped making excuses for their daughter. Time the little madam was slung over a parental knee and given a damn good smack.

rielouise said...

You may not be aware of this but in the USA a child of seven has been diagnosed with schizophrenia, making her the youngest known sufferer in the world. One of the symptoms? she has an imaginary friend.

Anonymous said...

bunny

Years ago I read an article about the sectioning of children in the States, one of which was slightly peeved when his mother ran off with another man. The mother gets custody, strangely enough the boy is not happy with this and is a tad uncooperative. He gets sectioned on the grounds that he is showing signs of anger, anger I'd be bloody livid in this case.

There is nothing wrong with this little proto-bitch that a good slap wouldn't cure and the parents get a hard slap first.